The Blaming Game

Faith is a feeling I can’t explain neither prove, yes I can’t even prove it and I have reached to a point where it doesn't matter , because there are so many things I can’t prove about myself to the closest people to me, because they are feelings and no matter how much I try to use words to explain I still fail to explain the exact feeling. When it comes to faith to each its own just let us respect each other to live in peace, god knows how much we need peace. the word itself has become an illusion. However, there is one very common thing happening in almost all faiths “The blaming game” between faith and believer. Let me give you a simple scenario here.

 A kid hits some other kid.

Parents: If you continue hitting others god will not love you because this action is a bad one.

Kid ignores and does it again with parents this time, while hitting one of the parent in an outburst he slips, falls and hurts his knees.

Parent: now see this what happens when you don’t listen, god punishes you.

At a very early age these little kids make a relationship with their creator based on how they were taught. So when they grow up and something doesn’t go quite right or they slip on any mistake, what happens?  The blaming game starts.

       1-They blame themselves for thinking they are bad. what did I do to get this? I am doing all my responsibilities towards my faith why is this happening to me? Am I that bad.

      2- They blame god or whichever faith they follow they simply blame it’s the cause of all their problems.

This kind of thinking doesn’t develop in a day or two it’s a matter of ignorance and in some cases the work of manipulative human power Why? because the easiest way to control others is by making them feel worthless. Yes, we should be careful and avoid doing actions which may cause harm to us and others however sometimes people stray we are not perfect angels we do make mistakes and faith gives us a way to repent and learn from our mistakes but humans do not you are either good (if you act the part) or bad forever.

I used to think it was true that when things aren’t sorting out no matter how much we try, it must be somehow our fault. There are even days I heard some people saying it out loud to others that It might be you doing something wrong to be so unlucky #bullies.

 So I did some soul searching and I concluded I can’t believe in a god that in my tiniest slips will let go of me like I didn’t matter or exist.

*We are taught that god is always watching us, close to us never far nor away.

*We are taught the love god has for us is even greater than our parents and many parents can sacrifice their lives for their children.

*We are taught god is absolute good and fair. So we should be very careful when it comes to hurting ourselves or others because god is fair and one day we will confront our victims and they will have the right to ask for justice.

So how can I blame my faith if it's pure and absolute good ?It contradicts with the whole idea of believing in a higher good power. The relationship between a believer and his faith is very personal relationship only he/she can understand and no matter how much we slip or do mistakes we will always have open doors of our faith even when the whole universe is against us. It makes us feel special and deserving of goodness and kindness.

 Isn’t that what we all want? to be respected and treated with kindness and to be seen for the good in us,simply to be valued as human beings.That gives us hope and  makes us indestructible nor controllable in some way it sets us free...